Emotional Papercuts: 10 Phrases Used to Control You
In a healthy relationship, language is a bridge used to connect. In a toxic one, language is a weapon used to control. In a toxic relationship you are dealing with someone who is disconnected to their inner being. To feel better, they try to pull you down to their frequency. They use Emotional Papercuts — individually small, but collectively devastating phrases designed to move you from your natural state of empowerment down into guilt, shame, or powerlessness. 1. "You’re too sensitive." The Translation: "I don't want to be held accountable for how my actions hurt you." By labeling your feelings as an overreaction, they invalidate your reality. It shifts the focus from their harmful behavior to your "faulty" character. Over time, this makes you stop trusting your own emotional compass. I heard this for decades, from my mother and my ex. I believed them and I tried so hard to change my attitude and be stronger. I never succeeded; I was always too m...